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You're holding a grudge? Really?

"Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds, on the heal that has crushed it" - Mark Twain

Hello, my friends in Oneness,

I had to start this blog with one of the most beautiful quotes that I have ever heard. It's the perfect introduction for a discussion about grudges, and holding grudges, which inevitably leads to forgiveness.

Holding a grudge is like drinking poison, and expecting the other person to die

There's a big part of me that is baffled as to why a discussion like this even has to take place. Are we still so antiquated to think that holding a grudge could have a positive effect on our lives? Haven't we moved on as a society? as a species? and as a race? We all know the answer is a resounding 'NO', so let's just move on.

You don't hold a grudge, your ego does

Face it, a grudge is a perfect example of our ego at work. You feel offended by the actions or words of another individual. Why? Because you are allowing your ego to dictate your life, by making you believe that you are separate from your higher self. A higher self that would not, and could not allow the actions, or words from any individual to affect them at all. The contrast that this life presents to us on a daily basis will always prove one thing, the fact that as individuals, we do not think alike. We should not have a problem with this fact. But, when we allow the ego to take control we lose touch with that thought process. We believe that 'I am right', and 'they are wrong', and if that person does not agree, we choose to hold a grudge.

Really? Get over yourself

I hate sounding like I'm scolding you, but come on. If you are holding a grudge, is it really worth it? You know you're only hurting yourself, right? We are beings of energy and frequencies. Each thought we have produces a frequency that extends outward from us and matches with other like-frequencies. It is those same frequencies that return to us and shape what we call 'our lives'. Don't even bother labeling these frequencies as 'good' or 'bad', that's irrelevant. The Universe doesn't discriminate and doesn't know the difference. It acts like a mirror and simply reflects back to us what we are putting out. So, when we're in a full grudge-holding mode, that anger, those negative connotations, whatever they may entail, are flying off of you into the Universe, hitting that mirror and coming right back to you tenfold. Is that really what you want?

Holding a grudge doesn't make you strong, it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn't make you weak, it sets you free.

And if you still don't believe what I'm saying, or buy into these quotes, here's the God's honest truth. There are two specific life events that will definitely change your mind. One will definitely occur, and the other may occur. What will definitely occur is the fact that you will get to a specific age in your life where you will see the futility of holding onto a grudge. It's typically later on in our years, but we all reach the point in our lives, ironically enough, when we realize that we may not have that much life left. It's at that point when we understand what really matters in life and the sheer stupidity of holding on to any kind of grudge. The other event that may occur is that a life-threatening illness befalls you. As it is with attaining a certain age, your mortality becomes the primary concern and you fully realize how holding on to a grudge has only been hurting yourself.

The Heart of the Matter

You know what I'm going to say, folks. Life's too f****** short! You don't have the time to be wasting your days and nights on something as ego-based, non-spiritual, and dumb-ass stupid as holding a grudge. ESPECIALLY if it's against someone in your immediate family! Family is all that we have. Our lives are a myriad of twists and turns, ups and downs, highs and lows, and the only constant through it all is our family. Why in the world would you alienate yourself from the only true love you may ever experience? Again, it's not worth it. I guess what it comes down to is that: "There are people in your life, who've come and gone. They let you down, you know they hurt your pride. You better put it all behind you baby, 'cause life goes on. You keep carrying that anger, it will eat you up inside, baby."

In Oneness,


'That Oneness Guy'

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